Finding Cash Fast

I recently had a conversation with some others about how to earn money quickly without having to get a part-time job. The conversation was fruitful and gave me ideas I had not considered. I even learned about some options I had not heard of before. 

There are options to earn money today, things that pay rather quickly, and others that pay over a period of time. We discussed ideas for earning without specific skills, as well as options that require specialization. 

If you want to take advantage of some of these ideas, first create a targeted plan. Consider if you need money today, this week, or just overall. 

Ask yourself if you are looking for work that is in-person, driving, or online only.

Consider about how much you expect to make. 

These answers might narrow your search to the best few options. 

Here are some of the prospects I discovered: 

• Sell unused gift cards
• Take surveys that pay
• Return recently purchased items
• New/unused
• With Tags
• Sell jewelry or handbags you no longer use
• Cash in your change
• Clean out your house and sell unwanted/unused items
• In addition to the online options, also consider: 
• Local Pawn shops
• Consignments shops
• Review your finances to determine where you can cut back
• Monthly subscriptions
• Membership fees
• Online jobs
• Use points or rewards accumulated 
• Ask neighbors if they need chores completed
• Sell scrap metal
• Go Fund Me
• Price adjustments from recent purchases
• Cash in aluminum cans
• Reviews that pay
• Check out serial numbers on any dollars you have
• Cool Serial Numbers 
• Mystery Shopping
• Food delivery
• Amazon delivery 
• Drive ride share
• Sell your hair
• Watch movie previews
• Check old scratch off lottery tickets
• Use cash back apps
• Hourly jobs
• Gaming that pays
• Credit card rewards
• Focus groups
• FindFocsGroups.com 
• Babysitting
• House cleaning 
• Yard work 
• Pet sitting 
• Freelance jobs
• Transcriptionist 
• Writing/editing
• Virtual assistant tasks
• Resume writing
• Social media posting
• Temp jobs or Day labor
• Donate plasma

Some websites you may want to visit

Tip: Create an email address to use for the purpose of signing up for these websites. This will help you to keep your personal email box clutter free. 

Up Work

Fiverr

Freelancer.com

PeoplePerHour

TaskRabbit

GigSmart

RapidWorkers

DoorDash for Drivers

UberEats for Drivers 

InstacartShopper

Amazon Flex

Uber for Drivers 

Lyft for Drivers

UserTesting

TryMata (formerly Try My UI)

Userlytics

Respondent

Prolific

Slice the Pie

Swagbucks

InboxDollars

Toluna

Opinion Outpost

Pinecone Research 

ySense

eBay

Facebook Marketplace

Mercari

OfferUp

PoshMark 

Etsy

Teachable

Gumroad

Shutterstock 

Let Us Know: If you do try any of these, reach out to us and let us know how it turned out. We would really be interested in hearing about your experience. 

Attachment Styles Quiz

 Determine Your Attachment Style!

Disclaimer: This is not an official or therapeutic screening or assessment instrument. It is just a list of multiple-choice questions to help you better see your own patterns. 

Choose the answer that feels most true for you in close relationships (romantic, friendships, or family). Keep track of your letters!

Instructions:

For each question, choose A, B, C, or D.
At the end, the letter you selected most often points to your dominant attachment style.

1. When someone I care about pulls away emotionally, I usually…

A. Give them space but check in with care.
B. Worry about what I did and feel anxious until things feel okay again.
C. Feel relieved and retreat even more.
D. Feel torn—I want to reach out but also want to protect myself.

 

2. In a relationship, I feel most uncomfortable when…

A. Communication is unclear.
B. I feel like the other person is drifting away or losing interest.
C. Someone needs too much from me emotionally.
D. Things get too close or too distant—it’s hard to know what’s safe.

 

3. When conflict happens, my instinct is to…

A. Talk it through calmly and find a solution together.
B. Panic, overthink, or try to fix the issue immediately.
C. Shut down, withdraw, or take a lot of space.
D. Go back and forth between pushing in and pushing away.

 

4. When someone expresses affection toward me, I usually…

A. Feel valued and respond openly.
B. Love it—but also worry they may take it away.
C. Feel pressured or overwhelmed by the emotional closeness.
D. Feel confused, part of me likes it, part of me doesn’t trust it.

 

5. My biggest relationship fear is…

A. Miscommunication or drifting apart slowly.
B. Being abandoned or not being enough.
C. Losing my independence or being smothered.
D. Being hurt by someone I let in.

 

6. When I need support, I usually…

A. Reach out comfortably.
B. Reach out quickly and strongly.
C. Try to handle it alone.
D. Struggle—I want help but don’t fully trust it.

 

7. When my partner or friend isn’t responding, I think…

A. They’re probably busy.
B. Something is wrong—I may have upset them.
C. It’s fine, I’ll catch up with them later.
D. Not sure if I should worry or pull away.

 

8. In relationships, I tend to…

A. Balance closeness and independence.
B. Seek a lot of reassurance and closeness.
C. Value independence over closeness.
D. Swing between seeking connection and avoiding it.

 

Results:

Count your letters.
The letter you chose the most often points to your dominant attachment style.

 

What Your Answers Mean

Mostly A’s → Secure Attachment

You’re comfortable with closeness, independence, and healthy communication. You give and receive love with ease and tend to build stable, supportive relationships.

 

Mostly B’s → Anxious Attachment

You crave closeness and connection but may worry about abandonment or rejection. You may overthink, seek reassurance, or feel easily triggered when relationships feel uncertain.

 

Mostly C’s → Avoidant Attachment

You value independence and may feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness. You might pull away during stress or feel overwhelmed by others’ needs.

 

Mostly D’s → Disorganized / Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

You may feel conflicted about closeness—you want connection but find it hard to trust. You may alternate between seeking intimacy and pushing people away.

Listen to an episode about this topic on the Life Lived Better Podcast. Episode 144: Attachment Styles  

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How to Stop Enabling

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Enabling – Providing a person something they could provide for themselves. Keeping them from experiencing the consequences of life.  

What is wrong with helping your kids or grandkids after they are grown?  

It may feel like help, but it can be harmful, keep them dependent, and can increase their entitlement.  

There is a difference between enabling and helping. 

You could be enabling them if: 

• They live with you, or you pay for their living expenses such as a phone bill, a car payment, or medical insurance when they are an adult. 
• You're constantly helping them through crises or providing financial support. 
• They don’t have a full-time job or even a part time job after they have graduated.  
• You constantly make sacrifices so they can have what they want. 
• You are overwhelmed by helping the adult child. 
• You constantly worry about doing something that will hurt or upset them. 

(Better Help, 2022) 

Why do we do it? 

• We want what is best for them.  
• We want to shield them from hardships  
• It is hard to accept they are grown. 
• It is hard to see them as anything but small kids who need you.  
• We don’t want to see them in trouble.  
• We don’t think they can handle their own responsibilities.
• They act as a companion to us and letting them go is difficult.  
• We don’t want to see them struggle.  

This is hard to hear...but we enable because of how it makes us feel.  

The adult child may not know how to cook, clean, grocery shop, or pay bills because

• We did not teach them, and we can feel guilty about that.  
• We can also keep doing this to maintain some control of their life.  
• Sometimes we do this so they will keep needing us. We need them to need us.  
• We feel valuable when we do things for others. 

The bad news is that these adult children will have a harder time in the “real world” the longer we do things for them. As hard as it is for us to let them go, we and they will be better for it when we do.  

Teach them and allow them to learn the life skills they need to be an adult. We are doing society a disservice to continue enabling them.  

How to stop enabling and allow them to become productive, healthy adults?  

Don’t throw them to the wolves and abandon them. You created this situation.  

• Get help for yourself. If you are not already in counseling or coaching, consider starting. You are getting something out of this arrangement, it is important to figure out what that is.  
• Talk with them about what you have realized about enabling. Tell them you realize you are partially responsible.  
• Explain the reason it is important for them to learn these skills for themselves. You won’t always be around, and they will have to function on their own at some point. 
• Help them learn the skills. You can show them once or twice, but better than showing them over and over, point them in the direction of other resources.  
• Banks can provide information about finances. 
• Classes to teach skills. 
• YouTube videos teach everything. Even how to fold sheets.  
• Their own therapist. They may need to learn emotional maturity, too.  
• Maybe even a family therapist. 

Start Small 

• You can start small, if it is easier.  
• If they are not working at all, they can get a part time job to start.  
• If they aren’t paying any bills, they can start by paying one. Have them pay for their own cell phone or their own insurance for a few months.  
• Go with them to set up a bank account for the first time.  
• Talk to them about finances and how to save, spend, and budget.  
• If you do not know how to do these things, learn with them.
• You can find so much information online today.
• There are free classes online.
• There are tutorials on YouTube.
• There are podcasts about every topic imaginable.  

Loaning Money

If you give an adult money, write out an agreement for repayment. There are too many misunderstandings about money and those misunderstandings can cause a lot of relationship problems. This may seem too formal, but it can be a great learning tool and keep conflict from occurring.  

• Make it clear the money is a loan.  
• Type up a simple agreement about how often and how much they will be expected to pay back.  
• Each person should sign the agreement. 
• Provide them a receipt for every payment. Keep a copy for yourself.  

Once you start, Don't Stop!

Don’t get roped back in by their pleas. Loving them really is teaching them then allowing them to do it on their own. Once you feel the pride from seeing them “adult” on their own, you will like that feeling. You may grieve a little, because you were getting some payoffs from keeping them dependent on you, but your relationship will be so much better.  

• When you feel pulled back into enabling, check your own feelings.  
• Is this legitimately something they could do for themself?  
• What is the reason you are feeling like giving in?  
• What is going on with you?  
• What would your payoff be for doing something for the adult they could do for themself?
• Look into the future and imagine what would happen if you gave in. 
• Look into the future and imagine what each of you would learn if you did not give in.  

Mentoring  

Seek support from others. Parents, fellowships, coaching, therapy, and groups are great ideas for support when we are making behavior changes in life.  

Support Groups

CoDA - Co-Dependents Anonymous. Their website https://coda.org says "the only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy & loving relationships."

 

Resources: 

Kirby, S. (2022, October 7). How to stop enabling grown children and why it's important. BetterHelp. Retrieved October 17, 2022, from https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/family/how-to-stop-enabling-grown-children-and-why-its-important/ 

When researching information for this show and blog post, much of the information on enabling was related to enabling a person who has an addiction. I found a great website that was not specifically aimed at addiction. The website is Deborah Byrne Psychology Services I found a lot about self-care and a blog entry How Do You Stop Enabling Adult Children? that is full of valuable information. The authors book called The Building Blocks of Self-Care looks like it could be helpful and the cost was only €5.00! 

This week, the Life Lived Better podcast topic was Enabling. Many of the resources I researched were aimed at people who enable because of addiction; therefore, I wrote most of the data myself. I did find some resources in a Better Help post. After we concluded recording, I found the website of a psychologist in the UK with valuable information. I have provided details and links to both at the bottom in "resources". 

You can listen to Life Lived Better, Season 2: Episode 19 - Enabling on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music,iHeartRadio, Castbox, Overcast, Google Podcasts, Pocket Casts, Radio Public, and Stitcher.